Skip over main navigation
  • Sign up
  • Log in
  • Basket: (0 items)
Daisy's Dream
  • Twitter
  • Facebook

DONATE
Get in touch
0118 934 2604
  • Twitter
Menu
  • Who we are
    • About us
    • Our impact
    • How we are funded
    • Our team
    • Our trustees
    • Our supporters
    • Vacancies
  • Get involved
    • Make a donation
      • Ways to donate
      • Donate online
      • Donate to a fundraising page
      • Leave a legacy
    • Fundraise
      • Create a fundraising page
      • Find a fundraising page
      • Fundraising ideas
      • Fundraising toolkits
      • Our fundraising stories
    • Events
      • All events
      • In the community
      • Challenge yourself
      • Feeling sporty
    • Volunteer
    • Corporate giving
  • Our services
    • Services we provide
    • For professionals
    • Useful Links
    • Book List
    • Training
  • Death & bereavement
    • Death in a family
    • The impact on...
      • Young children
      • Older children
      • Teenagers
    • How to talk about...
  • Serious illness
    • Serious illness in a family
    • Talking about...
  • Latest
    • News
    • Events
    • Volunteer Opportunities
    • Newsletters
  • Cheshire East
  • Donate
  • Admin
    • Log in
  • Basket: (0 items)
  1. Death & bereavement
  2. The impact on...

Teenagers

Most adults have strong memories of their teenage years, usually because they are emotional times. They can be very happy times, when lifelong friendships are formed and you feel camaraderie with others of the same age. You will have shared passions and dislikes and may have experienced your first love.

For both boys and girls, hormones may start to run riot leaving them feeling as though they are on an emotional rollercoaster. They are often surrounded by adults who find it difficult to cope with the effects of this; they may be dealing with a child who was chatty and sociable and is suddenly sullen and uncommunicative. Or, a child who once followed all the rules but has now decided to not go to school, or stay out late.

Imagine then throwing into this hotbed of emotions one of life’s most stressful experiences, the death of someone close. In our experience, teenagers who have experienced the death of someone close to them often say that they felt isolated from what was going on. Adults would assume that they were grown up and therefore should be able to cope better than, say, a younger brother or sister. They may be left feeling unsupported.

The death of a significant person can make a teenager feel very insecure at a time when they are starting to think about becoming more independent.

You may notice some of the following behaviours:

  • going back to behaving like a younger child
  • being disruptive in school
  • becoming angry easily
  • an increase in risk taking behaviours
  • seeming detached and not bothered about anything
  • becoming withdrawn, then may spend a lot of time alone in their bedroom
  • isolating themselves from the family; they may spend a lot of time with friends
  • taking on the role of the person who died
  • questioning religious, spiritual or existential beliefs
  • physical complaints or depression

Offering Support

Teenagers can have particularly strong relationships with their peer group and as a result may appear to seek support from them in the first instance. This can be difficult for a grieving parent who may want to offer and receive support. It is important to remember that this is a normal part of adolescence and that often teenagers turn to their peers for support for all kinds of emotional issues. However, their friends may not have the emotional maturity to be able to offer ongoing support and that friendship groups can in turn have their own difficulties, your support will still be very important.

They are old enough to be sensitive to your feelings and may not want to upset you or they may feel embarrassed by your tears. Try and find a way of making this more comfortable for them by reassuring them that your tears are normal and that it will not happen every time they want to talk.

  • Keep in touch with your child’s school; sometimes this is the place where teenagers act out their distress through disruptive behaviour. It is important that the school understands that the behaviours may be a cry for help
  • Be open and honest and allow them the opportunity to ask you questions even if they do not seem talkative
  • Allow them to take part in decision making for example about funeral arrangements or what to do on birthdays or anniversaries. At the same time ensure that you remain the parent, teenagers may feel they have to take on the role of the person who died
  • Offer them the opportunity to access professional support
  • They may find it helpful to read articles or books such as ’The Grieving Teen’ by Helen Fitzgerald, (Simon and Schuster 2000, ISBN: 0684868040).
  • Point them towards the CRUSE website for teenagers - www.rd4u.org.uk

If you have any concerns that they may be depressed, talk to your GP or suggest that your child does.

Published: 11th August, 2016

Updated: 13th October, 2016

Author:

Related topics:
  • The impact of death on...
Share this page
  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Twitter

Latest

  • Max & Gregg MacPherson-Koser wedding fundraiser for Daisy's Dream

    Max & Gregg MacPherson-Koser wedding fundraiser for Daisy's Dream

    Rather than a wedding gift please consider donating to this charity instead

  • Donate to Daisy's Dream as you shop with AmazonSmile

    Donate to Daisy's Dream as you shop with AmazonSmile

    We are now registered with AmazonSmile, so you raise money for Daisy's Dream with every eligible purchase you make. And what's more, you can set it up on your mobile app too! Here's a guide to get you up and running.

  • March Marathon MFG UK

    March Marathon MFG UK

    As part of our Charity of the year

  • Virgin Money Virtual London Marathon 2021

    Virgin Money Virtual London Marathon 2021

    We have 5 places up for grabs in this year's Virgin Money Virtual London Marathon! We'd love you to join our 2021 Dream Team on Sunday October 3rd to run, jog or walk this world record breaking event wherever you are. Your race, your pace, your way.

Related

  • Older children

    Older children

  • Young children

    Young children

Most read

  • About Us

    About Us

    Daisy’s Dream is a professional support service responding to the needs of children and families affected by life threatening illness or bereavement.

  • Death in a family

  • Upcoming opportunities

    Upcoming opportunities

    See a list of all our current community volunteering opportunities

  • One to one support

    One to one support

    Our tailored outreach service is offered to children and young people who we feel would benefit from additional support. The visits are provided free of charge and can be arranged for at home or at school.

  • Serious illness in a family

  • Talking to children about death and dying

    Talking to children about death and dying

    A guide for parents and carers about how to talk to a child about the death of someone they love.

  • Service Team

    Our service team are responsible for all elements of our therapeutic work, as well as writing and delivering our training courses.

  • 2017 General Appeal

    2017 General Appeal

    Your donation will change the lives of children and young people who are facing, or have experienced, the death of someone they love.

  • How we are funded

    How we are funded

    Daisy's Dream are a self funded charity providing their service to families and professionals entirely free of charge.

  • Gill Stevens

    Director

Upcoming opportunities

Upcoming opportunities

See a list of all our current community volunteering opportunities Read more

Published: 28th July, 2016

Updated: 26th March, 2020

Author:

Related topics:
  • Volunteer
How we are funded

How we are funded

Daisy's Dream are a self funded charity providing their service to families and professionals entirely free of charge. Read more

Published: 11th August, 2016

Updated: 8th September, 2020

Author:

Becoming a community volunteer

Becoming a community volunteer

We are looking for volunteers to manage and attend events on our behalf throughout the year. We have opportunities available across Central, East and West Berkshire. Read more

Published: 27th September, 2016

Updated: 12th November, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • Volunteer
We had an absolute ball!

We had an absolute ball!

Thank you so much to everybody who came along to celebrate our 21st anniversary with us at the Imagination Ball on Saturday 7th October Read more

Published: 8th October, 2017

Updated: 17th July, 2018

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Tadley Singers raise over £1,900

Tadley Singers raise over £1,900

A fabulous community concert packed to the rafters with people eager to hear some wonderful songs. Read more

Published: 30th October, 2017

Updated: 15th November, 2017

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Saying Goodbye - a BBC Children in Need documentary

Saying Goodbye - a BBC Children in Need documentary

Daisy's Dream client Amy Rose, and her Mum Claire, have taken part in a Children in Need documentary telling the stories of children and young people affected by bereavement. Read more

Published: 15th November, 2017

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Daisy's Dream Christmas cards are on sale now!

Daisy's Dream Christmas cards are on sale now!

Choose from a range of 8 festive designs, all for a good cause. Read more

Published: 20th November, 2017

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
#GivingTuesday 2017

#GivingTuesday 2017

Daisy's Dream are taking part in the biggest fundraising event in the world! Read more

Published: 28th November, 2017

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Daisy's Dream selected as one of East Berkshire Golf Club’s Charities of the Year

Daisy's Dream selected as one of East Berkshire Golf Club’s Charities of the Year

Read more

Published: 12th April, 2018

Updated: 11th September, 2018

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Tony Clark is fundraising for Daisy's Dream

Tony Clark is fundraising for Daisy's Dream

Most of my close friends will know how important Daisy’s dream have been to my boys, family and friends. Words will never describe how grateful I am to them and their work. Read more

Donate Fundraise

Published: 18th April, 2018

Updated: 2nd February, 2021

Author: Tony Clark

Daisy's Dream Golf Day at Caversham Heath Golf Club

Daisy's Dream Golf Day at Caversham Heath Golf Club

Caversham Heath Golf Club are raising money with a charity golf day on 2nd October 2018 to support children and young people who have been affected by the death, or serious illness, of someone they love. Read more

Donate Fundraise

Published: 1st August, 2018

Updated: 2nd February, 2021

Author: Daisy's Dream

Location: Caverhsam Heath Golf Club

Related topics:
  • Fundraising
RideLondon-Surrey100: A Tale of Two Chris's

RideLondon-Surrey100: A Tale of Two Chris's

Read more

Published: 1st August, 2018

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
The Wilson family: creating a legacy like no other

The Wilson family: creating a legacy like no other

Read more

Published: 11th September, 2018

Updated: 13th March, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • Fundraising stories
  • Our Supporters
  • News
Sign up for a Santa Run!

Sign up for a Santa Run!

Collect your beard and suit, then head off on a 5km festive run in one of the many Berkshire locations - all to raise money for Daisy's Dream. Read more

Published: 11th October, 2018

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Christmas cards on sale now!

Christmas cards on sale now!

Daisy's Dream Christmas cards are on sale now at Cards for Good Causes shops across Berkshire Read more

Published: 11th October, 2018

Updated: 18th December, 2018

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Spooktacular fundraising by National Instruments in Newbury

Spooktacular fundraising by National Instruments in Newbury

Newbury based firm National Instruments made the Dress Down for Daisy's Dream their own with a Halloween theme Read more

Published: 1st November, 2018

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Students at The Downs School raise over £1,000

Students at The Downs School raise over £1,000

The Downs School, Compton has raised over £1,000 by taking part in this year's Dress Down for Daisy's Dream day. Read more

Published: 5th November, 2018

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Bumper year for Reading Half!

Bumper year for Reading Half!

2019 turned out to be a bumper year for fundraising at our most local half marathon Read more

Published: 18th March, 2019

Updated: 28th March, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Lifecycle Software win three years in a row!

Lifecycle Software win three years in a row!

Lifecycle Software Ltd, based in Newbury, took on the Hilton Corporate Challenge again this year, keen to maintain their winning streak! Read more

Published: 18th March, 2019

Updated: 27th March, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Gowrings Mobility choose Daisy's Dream as Charity of the Year

Gowrings Mobility choose Daisy's Dream as Charity of the Year

Read more

Published: 21st March, 2019

Updated: 8th May, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
18 skydivers…15,000ft…£12,500 raised

18 skydivers…15,000ft…£12,500 raised

The 15,000ft Skydive has been a stalwart of our events calendar for years, but 2019 was our best yet! Read more

Published: 27th March, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Meet our 2019 London ‘Dream Team’

Meet our 2019 London ‘Dream Team’

The Dream Team are looking stronger than ever this year, with 5 golden bond holders, and 1 ballot place runner, we are hoping to raise over £12,500! Read more

Published: 1st April, 2019

Updated: 30th April, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
ESP get tough for Daisy's Dream

ESP get tough for Daisy's Dream

Run over 10 miles with 25 challenging obstacles along its path, the Tough Mudder is an endurance event that is not for the faint-hearted. Read more

Published: 9th May, 2019

Updated: 10th May, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Volunteers needed for Cards for Good Causes outlets

Volunteers needed for Cards for Good Causes outlets

We need volunteers to help out at stores across Berkshire during October, November and December. Read more

Published: 19th June, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Meet our Survive the Wild adventurers

Meet our Survive the Wild adventurers

Say hello to the team of courageous adventurers taking on our Survive the Wild challenge! Read more

Published: 20th June, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Rich and Alex's Longest Day Challenge

Rich and Alex's Longest Day Challenge

Local pals Rich and Alex take on 72 holes of golf back to back, all for their friend Dan Read more

Published: 24th June, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
They Survived the Wild!

They Survived the Wild!

On 29th June, a team of six brave supporters headed to the Lake District for our Survive the Wild challenge. Read more

Published: 1st July, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Cheshire East

Cheshire East

Following a successful pilot project, we are delighted to expand our valuable Daisy’s Dream service to the Cheshire East area, providing support directly to children, young people and their families living with the the loss or critical illness of someone they love. Read more

Published: 19th July, 2019

Updated: 6th October, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • Services we provide
ESP smash their £10k fundraising target!

ESP smash their £10k fundraising target!

14 kilometres of mud, mud and more mud - but what's a little mud between friends? Read more

Published: 7th October, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Our 2019 Christmas cards are on sale now!

Our 2019 Christmas cards are on sale now!

Click here for all the details of where to buy our wonderful 2019 Christmas card designs. Read more

Published: 16th October, 2019

Updated: 17th February, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Santa runs a-go-go!

Santa runs a-go-go!

If dressing up as Father Christmas on a cold winter's morning sounds like your idea of fun, then we've got some great news! Read more

Published: 8th November, 2019

Updated: 9th December, 2019

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Judi Charters is fundraising for Daisy's Dream

Judi Charters is fundraising for Daisy's Dream

I realise the impact of family bereavement on children and the long term effects it can have. I have seen how Daisy's Dream can help with the healing process. Read more

Donate Fundraise

Published: 9th January, 2020

Updated: 2nd February, 2021

Author: Judith Charters

A 70th birthday celebration to remember

A 70th birthday celebration to remember

Former Daisy's Dream volunteer Judi Charters marked her 70th birthday in style with a sponsored walk. Read more

Published: 27th February, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Guidance for funerals during the COVID-19 pandemic

Guidance for funerals during the COVID-19 pandemic

Read more

Published: 3rd April, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • How to talk about...
  • News
Taking on the 2.6 challenge

Taking on the 2.6 challenge

Lots of our supporters joined the 2.6 challenge this weekend to support Daisy's Dream Read more

Published: 27th April, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Thank you to the VINCI UK Foundation

Thank you to the VINCI UK Foundation

VINCI UK Foundation's Together Against COVID funding programme Read more

Published: 28th May, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Fisher Family Challenge

Fisher Family Challenge

A huge thank you to Louise and Ben for completing their 2.6 challenge! Read more

Published: 1st June, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Signposting to other support services

Signposting to other support services

A list of useful links for anyone who needs additional support Read more

Published: 3rd June, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Edwina’s 10th anniversary fundraiser

Edwina’s 10th anniversary fundraiser

Read more

Published: 17th July, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Double Matched Day - You helped us raise £15,592.35!

Double Matched Day - You helped us raise £15,592.35!

We would like to say a really BIG thank you to everyone who participated in the first ever Double Matched Day. You raised an incredible £5,592.35 which, together with the £10,000 of double matched funding from the Greenham Trust, totalled a massive £15,592.35! Read more

Published: 27th July, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Thank you to Easthampstead Park Cemetery and Crematorium

Thank you to Easthampstead Park Cemetery and Crematorium

A massive thank you from all of us to Easthampstead Park Cemetery and Crematorium who kindly presented Daisy's Dream with a generous donation of £10,000. Read more

Published: 5th August, 2020

Author: Daisy's Dream

Related topics:
  • News
Super Skydive 2021

Super Skydive 2021

Join us for the Daisy's Dream Super Skydive. Jump from the highest altitude possible in the UK, the 15,000ft skydive is a pulse racing freefall of up to 60 seconds. Read more

Start: 25th September, 2021 at 8:00am

End: 25th September, 2021 at 3:00pm

Published: 16th September, 2020

Updated: 27th January, 2021

Author: Daisy's Dream

Location: GoSkyDive, Old Sarum Airfield, Salisbury, SP4 6EB

Related topics:
  • Challenge yourself
  • Events
Share this page
  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Twitter
Survive The Wild 2021

Survive The Wild 2021

Join us on a full day of outdoor adventure... think quarry abseiling, canyoning, scrambling and more. This fantastic fundraising challenge will see you achieve more than you ever thought possible! Read more

Start: 16th October, 2021 at 9:30am

End: 17th October, 2021 at 9:30am

Published: 1st December, 2020

Updated: 28th January, 2021

Author: Daisy's Dream

Location: Coniston, Coniston

Related topics:
  • Challenge yourself
  • Events
Share this page
  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Twitter
Reading Half Marathon 2021

Reading Half Marathon 2021

From confident athletes to complete beginners, the Reading Half Marathon is a great experience. Please note that the event organisers have stated that should the event not be able to take place on April 11th due to Coronavirus restrictions still being in place, they will switch the whole event, including confirmed entries to Sunday 7th November 2021. Read more

Start: 11th April, 2021 at 10:15am

End: 11th April, 2021 at 2:00pm

Published: 2nd December, 2020

Updated: 7th January, 2021

Author: Daisy's Dream

Location: Green Park, Reading

Related topics:
  • Challenge yourself
  • Feeling sporty
  • Events
Share this page
  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Twitter

Latest tweet

  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • Youtube
  • Sitemap
  • Accessibility
  • Terms & Conditions
  • Contact Us
  • Log In

Registered Charity No. 1177145

Sign up for our newsletter

Please enter your first name
Please enter your last name
Please enter your email address Please enter a valid email address (e.g. [email protected])